Dear Former Self -American Politics and Law of Jante (Part 2)
Now, to my American friends who don’t know about the Law of Jante it can be researched many places on the web. It is historically interesting to me, philosophically valuable in some ways and also holds back many artists and people wanting to shine their light.
Then there are the people who want to talk about it, and discuss what culturally is happening today.
It’s a philosophical ideal that holds some merit, but historically is misunderstood at least from where the word and intent came from. The idea of socialism and part of it’s balance is the idea of mediocracy and anonymity (to stand out is seen as not good, even if it’s a natural star like quality so artists I have talked have struggled to shine without fear of being judged) and safe way of living life. Financially and otherwise, it creates a safe place. I am not anti law of Jante but I am against it. Yep, a paradox.
Why? Because Solgave Consulting is really to help people realize they are extraordinary. My first client and I talked about the interesting hurdles of marketing in the land of Law of Jante.
He said we could go two ways, and I chose the latter. That is the American way. I will sell the excellence of what he offers because I believe it’s extraordinary, or I wouldn’t help brand it.
I have met other writers and artists and people who are struggling by standing out. Law of Jante is great in the ways I mentioned above, but if you are extraordinary you can suddenly feel like an alien. Because it’s my belief that we are ALL EXTRAORDINARY.
I mean to say that we all have a light in us so bright that to shine it is to inspire those around us. How dare we cower to make someone else feel less insecure? The quote below has been in many therapy settings I’ve seen in on my walls throughout life.
A blog by a successful artist in Stockholm spoke of this law and her need to go to New York City to make the networking connections and sort of check out of the balance of not ever feeling okay standing out. Because if we are extraordinary it can be a balance of humility and courage to show who you are, to be authentic, and to dare to dream.
Young entrepreneurs in Oslo are debating this right now in an article I read. I want my children to know they are extraordinary. I want your children to know they are extraordinary.
So as an American guy who’s lived in both Scandinavia and the US several times now I can say for sure there are things I love about the US and things I love about here. And there are things I don’t like about both places. What I love is seeing how the best of each can make my children, for example, exceptional because both countries hold some things very unique and if ideas converge more I think both will evolve well.
The ability to dream, to stand out if you should and to lead with courage and no shame that leading or excelling is bad.
This is not push for over stressed kids and exams and test scores and spotting matches they aren’t up for. I am talking about our innate gifts; the ones we often suppress or fear shining. Not the peer pressure aspects, but the star within.
I started to cry tonight when telling a future writer that the fear of sharing some of these articles that I find to be amazing and profound and life changing, is a fear I too once had. I did not know it was okay to stand out.
I heard the inner critic or old voices or the haters. As I told her tonight, after a few comments from anyone, one person in fact, that says “You helped me by writing this.” “Thank you for your courage.”
That’s all it took. (tears) Because then I was free. To not care about what my parents thought of my writing, or my aunt, or childhood friend because suddenly my writing was about the art and helping readers in some way.
We all have a story and a voice inside of us. We all have a star shining and it’s not the dark we fear the most, it’s our own light.
Step into your light, and step into greatness, because all of us are extraordinary in some way and we often need someone to show us it’s okay to shine.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
Vlog shown on Part 1 AND 2 because I touched on both topics despite flu and low light. Watch at your own risk and as always, we thank you for your comments and shares and insights!